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3 tips to boost your confidence.

Being confident takes time and practice, because I don’t believe that people are born confident. We all had to make some effort in order to appear more confident among other people. Keep in mind that it’s not only extroverts that can be confident, even if you are an introverted person. You can still build the courage within yourself to be confident when speaking to other people. 

When you start to be more confident, people start to be attracted to you and not only physically but you start to have a magnetism about you. When you feel like you are not a confident person, it becomes really easy for you to fall in a downward spiral of negativity and self-doubt. Nobody wants that, so here are 3 tips that will help boost your confidence with a bonus tip at the end!

Tip Number 1 – Work out.

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Working out not only helps you build muscle and stay healthy but it also helps with boosting your confidence. When you start to love the way to you, you will automatically start to feel more confident. Start off easy, you won’t be the next mr. olympia in a week if you’ve never worked out before. By starting off easy, you can make sure that you don’t injure yourself and that you can stay turned into a routine. Start by lifting light weight and a walk around the block as your cardio, during winter instead of taking a walk try doing some jump rope or kettlebell swings to develop your muscles and cardio at the same time. 

Long-term exercise has been proven to reduce depression and feelings of anxiety while promoting healthy and sustainable feelings of self-confidence. Starting a workout routine is always the hardest but once you get over that hump, you will start to actually want to exercise. Don’t forget that you can’t outrun a bad diet, remember to eat healthy when you start to workout in order to continue that momentum and get closer to your goals.

Tip Number 2 – Learn to truly accept a compliment.

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Have you ever gotten a compliment from someone and you didn’t know how to respond? Do you awkwardly smile, put your hand behind your head and say something like “oh no, I’m not that good.” or maybe do you start to feel embarrassed and have a hard time responding? If you do any of the things I mentioned or something similar, don’t fret because that’s a normal feeling. 

Next time someone gives you a compliment, start by saying “Thank you” and say it sincerely. People can tell when you don’t really mean what you say. By simply replying “Thank you” it makes you seem approachable and easy to talk to. The more you do this, the easier it becomes and sooner or later it will feel very natural for you to respond to a compliment and most likely you will start to feel comfortable giving compliments as well!

Tip Number 3 – Practice your smile.

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Let’s try a scenario, let’s say you are at a party and you get introduced to  two people. The first person you meet has his arms folded in front of him and only gives you a nod as a way of acknowledging you. The second person you meet, greets you with a smile and says “Nice to meet you.” and gives you a friendly handshake. Which person do you want to talk to more, the first one or the second?

The obvious answer is the first one, I’m just kidding, it’s the second person! Why, because a smile tends to put people at ease and makes them approachable. When you smile at a person, and I mean really smile, people get a good vibe from you. They will start to remember you and will want to hang out with you. A genuine smile when you meet a person will make you feel good. There’s something about truly smiling at someone that makes you feel good inside.

Bonus Tip –  Just start being confident.

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Being confident starts with you. Believe in yourself and believe that you can be confident. If you are reading this, then you are already there. You are taking the steps to be more confident and I know that you are on the right track. Confidence will build slowly but in order for that to happen you will need to simply start. Wake up a little earlier than usual and take a walk around the block, start by smiling at people that you meet and when someone gives you a compliment, sincerely thank them and start a small conversation. 

Do this from now on and you’ll be surprised how fast you will start to feel confident. 

Cheers. 

Weekly Comic #6 – Avoid being these 4 types when invited to a party

5 Mindsets that will make you more likable.

Having the proper mindset when meeting a new person can mean the difference of them liking you or not. Sometimes we get so distracted and we feel different and then we start to act like another person. By having the proper mindset and keeping yourself focus, you will start to have people gravitate towards you. Here are 5 mindsets to help you with that. 

Mindset #1 – “I live my life with a purpose”

When you have a purpose or a goal in life that you are trying to strive for, people will naturally see that as a character trait that they admire. Someone who has a goal has their heart set on achieving a goal. That drive can make that person into a leader and will be seen in high regard. Most people are happy living a regular life, they don’t have that fire within them but sometimes when they meet a person who is so focused on achieving their goal, that can sometimes spark a flame and reignite a passion within them. When that happens, people will look up to you and they will want to be your friend. 

Mindset #2 – “The way that I am is more important than the way people think about me”

Your character should always be more important than your reputation. When people feel like they can trust you and feel that you are a decent person, that goes a long way. If you are able to humble yourself, regardless of your reputation to show that you are a decent person. That kindness alone towards people will definitely have a bigger impact. Kind gestures, no matter how small, speaks volumes.   

Mindset #3 – “Everything is okay, I’ll be okay”

Having this mindset will stop you from creating a negative loop. What is a negative loop? It’s when you start doubting yourself, saying things like “What if I screw up my meeting?, What if they don’t like me? What if the suit I’m wearing is not proper?” These thoughts may seem normal at first but slowly, you will start to get into negative loops more often than not and soon you will have a hard time believing in yourself. Take a deep breath and say “Everything is okay, I’ll be okay.” This restarts your thinking whenever you start getting into a negative loop. 

Mindset #4 – “I am an honest person”

Having integrity is key to become more likable. Sometimes we think that if we do a small lie it’s not that bad, but over time people will notice. If you start coming up with white lies constantly, your demeanor starts to change. You will continue making more lies and eventually, people will end up not trusting you. Trust plays a major role when dealing with people, when you break that trust it will be almost impossible to gain that trust back. Live your life with integrity and be an honest person and you will not only see a change in character within yourself but a change in how people perceive you. 

Mindset #5 “I know who I am”

Knowing who you are and making your life work with that will help when dealing with people. Sometimes people will treat you in a way that you don’t like. They may make fun of the way you dress, or the way you look or whatever. Negative people will often try to bring you down, and sometimes it can even be family or long time friends. What should you do in that situation? You have to remember who you are and what your values are. If you asked these people to kindly stop how they treat you and they refuse, you will have to search within yourself to find out whether or not they are worth keeping in your life. 

Practice these mindsets and you will start to feel different in how you hold yourself. You will feel more comfortable in your skin and people will notice. They will gravitate towards you and you will be more liked. Stay true to yourself first and foremost and people will admire that. 

Cheers

10 Awesome Life Hacks You Can Learn in Just One Minute

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Some of these are pretty interesting, while others I’m kinda skeptical about, especially the battery trick. Check it out, maybe you will find something interesting to try out!

5 Levels After a Break up

Let’s be honest, breaking up with someone sucks. It’s never a happy feeling, even if both of you break up mutually, there is still a sadness that you feel. Below I will take you on the 5 most common levels that you will go through after a break up.

Level 1 – Denial

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I feel that denial is the first thing that we go through when we have a break up, I know I went through it. It just feels unreal, depending on how long you’ve been with your ex, to suddenly stop the daily routines that you had with that person is quite shocking. We first deny that we are breaking up, we tell ourselves that maybe this is just temporary, maybe they just want some time apart, but sooner or later you start to realize that the break up is final. That you will not get back together, that’s when it hurts and that’s when you start going through level 2. 

Level 2 – Anger

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Anger is an important feeling to feel when going through a break up, you start clearing your mind of the fog that you had. Maybe this is the point where you start to see what other people saw in your ex. This is the “Aha” moment, where you friends will normally say things like “Told you so” or “I never liked him/her, I’m glad you guys broke up, you don’t need him/her”

Anger makes you stronger, and makes you a bit wiser. Maybe next time, you won’t fall for that type of person or you realize that you want to focus on yourself, but after this moment of strength comes a moment of weakness. That is grief, which is the next level after Anger.

Level 3 – Grief

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Let it out, let the tears fall. No one will judge you, you are only human. You have feelings just like everybody else. You don’t need to “Man up” or “be a Boss bitch.” It’s okay to cry, it’s okay to feel sadness because this is your  moment to heal yourself. Tears are just like the rain, it can be long or it can be short. It will always be a gloomy day but after the rain stops the sun shines and the flowers grow. 

This too shall pass and you won’t be stuck crying forever, even though it feels like you will be. You will say things or places that remind you of your ex but don’t fret, memories can be replaced by better ones and you will get over that person, trust me, it’s not the end for you.

Level 4 – Acceptance

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It’s time to accept that you are no longer in a relationship, congrats, you’re single. Be happy, because out there is someone who will love you for who you are. You will find that person, don’t let past relationships ruin future potential partners. You have to be open minded, but if you do see traits that you don’t like of a potential partner, this is the time that you cannot let that slide. Especially if those traits caused your heartaches in the past. You must let them know that you are not cool with that, and if they don’t care about how you feel. That’s okay, there are others who will be a better fit for you. 

Be kind, be open and be friendly, sooner or later you will find a person (or persons) that you feel a strong connection to. Life is all about experiences, and once you feel like you’re with a good person, you will know.

Level 5 – Hope

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You made it, you’ve gone through the steps after a break up. Hope is the last stop, this is more of a mindset, keep hopeful. Follow your dreams and don’t stop until you make it, because trust me you will find someone who will push you to go as far as you can. Those people are the good ones, they will want you to succeed because they truly love you and they believe in you. That won’t happen if you aren’t hopeful, keep that feeling alive and you will see it in the end. 

Breakups are hard but getting over the 5 levels is even harder, once you truly make it out of there, you will feel much better. You will feel like a new person, don’t forget this is a normal part of life, you may go through these levels more than once. Keep your head up high and don’t give up, you will make it out of this, I promise.

Cheers.