Being confident takes time and practice, because I don’t believe that people are born confident. We all had to make some effort in order to appear more confident among other people. Keep in mind that it’s not only extroverts that can be confident, even if you are an introverted person. You can still build the courage within yourself to be confident when speaking to other people.
When you start to be more confident, people start to be attracted to you and not only physically but you start to have a magnetism about you. When you feel like you are not a confident person, it becomes really easy for you to fall in a downward spiral of negativity and self-doubt. Nobody wants that, so here are 3 tips that will help boost your confidence with a bonus tip at the end!
Tip Number 1 – Work out.
Working out not only helps you build muscle and stay healthy but it also helps with boosting your confidence. When you start to love the way to you, you will automatically start to feel more confident. Start off easy, you won’t be the next mr. olympia in a week if you’ve never worked out before. By starting off easy, you can make sure that you don’t injure yourself and that you can stay turned into a routine. Start by lifting light weight and a walk around the block as your cardio, during winter instead of taking a walk try doing some jump rope or kettlebell swings to develop your muscles and cardio at the same time.
Long-term exercise has been proven to reduce depression and feelings of anxiety while promoting healthy and sustainable feelings of self-confidence. Starting a workout routine is always the hardest but once you get over that hump, you will start to actually want to exercise. Don’t forget that you can’t outrun a bad diet, remember to eat healthy when you start to workout in order to continue that momentum and get closer to your goals.
Tip Number 2 – Learn to truly accept a compliment.
Have you ever gotten a compliment from someone and you didn’t know how to respond? Do you awkwardly smile, put your hand behind your head and say something like “oh no, I’m not that good.” or maybe do you start to feel embarrassed and have a hard time responding? If you do any of the things I mentioned or something similar, don’t fret because that’s a normal feeling.
Next time someone gives you a compliment, start by saying “Thank you” and say it sincerely. People can tell when you don’t really mean what you say. By simply replying “Thank you” it makes you seem approachable and easy to talk to. The more you do this, the easier it becomes and sooner or later it will feel very natural for you to respond to a compliment and most likely you will start to feel comfortable giving compliments as well!
Tip Number 3 – Practice your smile.
Let’s try a scenario, let’s say you are at a party and you get introduced to two people. The first person you meet has his arms folded in front of him and only gives you a nod as a way of acknowledging you. The second person you meet, greets you with a smile and says “Nice to meet you.” and gives you a friendly handshake. Which person do you want to talk to more, the first one or the second?
The obvious answer is the first one, I’m just kidding, it’s the second person! Why, because a smile tends to put people at ease and makes them approachable. When you smile at a person, and I mean really smile, people get a good vibe from you. They will start to remember you and will want to hang out with you. A genuine smile when you meet a person will make you feel good. There’s something about truly smiling at someone that makes you feel good inside.
Bonus Tip – Just start being confident.
Being confident starts with you. Believe in yourself and believe that you can be confident. If you are reading this, then you are already there. You are taking the steps to be more confident and I know that you are on the right track. Confidence will build slowly but in order for that to happen you will need to simply start. Wake up a little earlier than usual and take a walk around the block, start by smiling at people that you meet and when someone gives you a compliment, sincerely thank them and start a small conversation.
Do this from now on and you’ll be surprised how fast you will start to feel confident.