Having the proper mindset when meeting a new person can mean the difference of them liking you or not. Sometimes we get so distracted and we feel different and then we start to act like another person. By having the proper mindset and keeping yourself focus, you will start to have people gravitate towards you. Here are 5 mindsets to help you with that.
Mindset #1 – “I live my life with a purpose”
When you have a purpose or a goal in life that you are trying to strive for, people will naturally see that as a character trait that they admire. Someone who has a goal has their heart set on achieving a goal. That drive can make that person into a leader and will be seen in high regard. Most people are happy living a regular life, they don’t have that fire within them but sometimes when they meet a person who is so focused on achieving their goal, that can sometimes spark a flame and reignite a passion within them. When that happens, people will look up to you and they will want to be your friend.
Mindset #2 – “The way that I am is more important than the way people think about me”
Your character should always be more important than your reputation. When people feel like they can trust you and feel that you are a decent person, that goes a long way. If you are able to humble yourself, regardless of your reputation to show that you are a decent person. That kindness alone towards people will definitely have a bigger impact. Kind gestures, no matter how small, speaks volumes.
Mindset #3 – “Everything is okay, I’ll be okay”
Having this mindset will stop you from creating a negative loop. What is a negative loop? It’s when you start doubting yourself, saying things like “What if I screw up my meeting?, What if they don’t like me? What if the suit I’m wearing is not proper?” These thoughts may seem normal at first but slowly, you will start to get into negative loops more often than not and soon you will have a hard time believing in yourself. Take a deep breath and say “Everything is okay, I’ll be okay.” This restarts your thinking whenever you start getting into a negative loop.
Mindset #4 – “I am an honest person”
Having integrity is key to become more likable. Sometimes we think that if we do a small lie it’s not that bad, but over time people will notice. If you start coming up with white lies constantly, your demeanor starts to change. You will continue making more lies and eventually, people will end up not trusting you. Trust plays a major role when dealing with people, when you break that trust it will be almost impossible to gain that trust back. Live your life with integrity and be an honest person and you will not only see a change in character within yourself but a change in how people perceive you.
Mindset #5 “I know who I am”
Knowing who you are and making your life work with that will help when dealing with people. Sometimes people will treat you in a way that you don’t like. They may make fun of the way you dress, or the way you look or whatever. Negative people will often try to bring you down, and sometimes it can even be family or long time friends. What should you do in that situation? You have to remember who you are and what your values are. If you asked these people to kindly stop how they treat you and they refuse, you will have to search within yourself to find out whether or not they are worth keeping in your life.
Practice these mindsets and you will start to feel different in how you hold yourself. You will feel more comfortable in your skin and people will notice. They will gravitate towards you and you will be more liked. Stay true to yourself first and foremost and people will admire that.