Lessons learned from Mark Manson’s The Subtle Art of not Giving a F*ck.

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You can find the book here: https://amzn.to/38mvyZ8

and the audiobook here for free with a free trial: https://amzn.to/2riO6cr

I remembered when I used to work at a bookstore and Mark Manson’s book was on the New Releases shelf. At first I chuckled when I read the title because I’ve never seen a title that was so real. During my breaks, we had a copy of the book in the staff room so every now and then I would read a chapter, and I started to realize that this book was so refreshing.

I bought the audiobook because I’m better at listening than I am at reading. So I started listening to a chapter every morning, it became a routine. When I wake up to go for a walk or on my way to work, it’s an audiobook that really resonates within me. I’ve probably gone over the audiobook at least three times and started listening to it again so that I can write this blog. 

So these are my top 3 lessons that I learned from Mark Manson’s The Subtle Art of not Giving a F*ck.

Lesson Number 1: Give your attention to what is important in your life.

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We live in a digital world where everything is so fast paced, where social media controls how we act and live our lives. We compare ourselves to each other, endlessly scrolling on your feed looking at “happy” people living their lives. 

I’m 29, soon to be 30, and it feels like everytime I open my Facebook, people that I went to highschool with are getting married. It seems like it was just yesterday that I was hanging around with my friends in our school’s cafeteria, but life moves so quickly that we start to lose track of what is really important. 

I was an avid gamer. I remember a time when I was in highschool: it was summer break and I spent that whole summer indoors playing a role playing game called Star Wars: Knights of the Old Republic. Looking back, it’s clear that I was addicted. From the moment I woke up until late into the night, I was sucked into this world. I missed out a lot, didn’t hang out with friends, just stuck in my room. Chubby 13 year old me, eating pizza pockets and getting lost in a galaxy far, far away. 

That was 16 years ago, but it feels like I haven’t changed. I no longer spend hours upon hours playing video games as I did when I was a teenager. Don’t get me wrong, I still play sometimes here and there, but now, instead of video games sucking up all my attention, I spend my time learning about business or affiliate marketing or writing a blog. 

It feels like every second that we are alive, everything is trying to fight for our attention. Billboards on the street, social media ads, YouTube videos, phone calls, texts, you name it. How many times did one of your parents tell you to put away your cellphone while having dinner, or your significant other getting irritated because you pulled out your phone during a date just because someone texted you or sent you an email. 

Or in multiple movies, where the main protagonist is a successful person and they start neglecting their family, and there is a scene where one of the kids are doing a recital and the kid is looking around in the audience to see if mommy or daddy are there, but they aren’t there and you see the kid becomes sad. You may say “That’s just a typical movie trope” but it does happen in real life and once we start to forget what is truly important for us, that’s when things start to spiral out of control.

So before you regret anything, remember to give attention to things that are important to you, you never know if you’ll lose them one day. 

Lesson Number 2: Sometimes life sucks.

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Sometimes life sucks…and everybody has those moments but you know what, it’s okay. Yes, life can suck but it can also be a wonderful thing. 

You didn’t get that job you wanted, that’s okay. You got rejected by that girl or guy you like, who cares, they don’t. You got a parking ticket because you were 5 minutes late and you couldn’t leave on time, okay that one sucks but again, it’s not the end of the world. 

By accepting that this happened to you, you actually empower yourself. It’s okay to get angry about being dumped, it’s okay to want to shout because you got a parking ticket, it’s okay to cry if you got fired from work. You want to know why? 

Because you are still alive. Dead people can’t do anything, but you can. You can take what life gives you, and actually live your life. Who gives a f*** if your jerk of a boss makes fun of you and is always on your ass. Screw it, quit. You can find another job, because you are still breathing. 

You are probably thinking “I can’t just quit my job, I have a family, I have a wife, I have kids to feed and a mortgage.” Yes, be responsible, think about your family, but can you really look at them in the eye and say that you are happy with your job. That you are living up to your potential as a husband, as a father?

I’ve seen in numerous times, a father coming back to his family, weight on his shoulders because his boss was shouting at him for stupid things. They get in their car, furious. Driving above the speed limit, burning through stop signs until one day, they get home. Frustrated and annoyed, complaining that the kids are noisy and that dinner was overcooked. Do you see where I am getting at? 

We carry this burden, and before you know it you start to change. Your significant other can’t even recognize you anymore because you aren’t the person they married. What then? Was keeping a job that treated you like crap worth all that? 

You can still change your life while you’re still alive, don’t waste it rotting in a job you hate. Sometimes life sucks, but it doesn’t have to.  

Lesson Number 3: Remember that one day you will die.

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One of my favorite parts in the book was a story that happened to Mark Manson when he was younger. The story involved a childhood friend of his. I don’t want to give it away, but that story really made me think about things in my life. 

My close friends and family and how things don’t always turn out the way you want. The title of this lesson is Remember that one day you will die, it’s a powerful message because honestly, how many of us actually think about death? 

We fear it, and I think that’s a fear that almost any human being in the world fears, and it’s normal but we never talk about it. We grieve when a loved one has passed away, we look back at photos and remember the good times. Though, until it actually happens, we never consider the possibility that someone close to us could actually die. It’s like sinking into an ocean of despair and anger and frustration. It seems like nothing can help you out of that situation. You just sink deeper and deeper until you cry out for help. You reach out and a hand grabs you and pulls you out of that mess. Slowly, you start to breathe again, and you feel that everything is getting back to normal. You try to get things back to normal, say the right words, and even put on a smile but the feeling doesn’t go away and that’s okay.

Everybody dies, but not everybody lives. It’s cliche, but it does put things in perspective. Ever since I was young, I was told by my parents, aunts and uncles and friends that we should do well in school, get a good job and live your life. I heard it so much growing up that it was almost a mantra. 

Well, I was never an A student (barely a C student) and my jobs have always been minimum wage jobs that I never really cared about. It was weird, because the people that I went to school with that had better grades than I did, ended up working minimum wage jobs. I’ve also met coworkers that had PhDs and had other business back in their country working next to me in a Tim Horton’s for a minimum wage. 

I remember thinking “Is that what life is? Is this what is going to happen to me?” I just couldn’t believe that even with amazing grades I can still end up working minimum wage until I grow old. Just like an elderly coworker during my time in Tim Horton’s, I asked her once how long she worked here, she replied “Long time, almost 25 years.” She told me that she used to be an accountant, but when she moved to Canada she couldn’t find a job. She had two kids and the only company that took her in was a Tim Horton’s and ever since she kept working for that company. 25 years of pouring coffee.

This can be what life is, I just couldn’t accept that. So I started to learn on my own, school was never for me but learning was. I watched video after video after video, read as many books as I could read until I mentally broke out of this delusion that this is what life is. 

I believe we have the potential in us to achieve great things, and by remembering that you will die we can start putting things into perspective. Don’t let another day pass you by, make the most of it and start to live again.


You can find the book here: https://amzn.to/38mvyZ8

and the audiobook here for free with a free trial: https://amzn.to/2riO6cr

Conclusion

Mark Manson’s The Subtle Art of not Giving a F*ck is a must read for anyone. It started with a chuckle because of the title, but it ended up being one of my favorite books. The life lessons you learn stick with you, and you start to think about things in a new light. I’m sure we’ve all had thoughts about having a better life, and you felt that no one ever gave you a straight answer. If you too feel this way, this book may be for you. 

Thank you Mark Manson for sharing this to the world and thank you for taking the time to read this. Remember there’s still time.

Always learn and never stop until you are exactly where you need to be. 

Cheers.

Published by Reggie King

Hey, I'm Reginald but you can call me Reggie. Have you ever spent countless hours watching YouTube videos of successful people living their lives, showing off their bank accounts, and living the life that you always wanted? I did, I kept on watching video after video after video and I didn't really take any action. I learned a lot but what is the point of learning if you don't use that knowledge? So I started this blog, even if no one reads it, I am doing this for me. It keeps me focus and helps me produce something that can be helpful to people. I will mostly focus on Affiliate Marketing and creating a side job that will eventually become my primary job. I want to live the life that I've always dreamed of living and I won't stop until I get to where I'm supposed to be. Over time, I will start blogging more about myself so you can get to know me and realize that behind every blog post there is a decent human typing those words. I am still a student and I think I will forever be a student of life and this blog will help me take the lessons that I have learned and write them in my own words. New posts every Tuesday!

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